On Being a Freak Show: the Homeschool Mom


This week I want to share some thoughts on homeschooling, this little video is an introduction to that.

This video also expresses what dorks Seth and I are, to take our Valentine’s Date Night in a book store and then to have as much fun as we did.

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12 Comments

emily wierenga
Reply February 13, 2011

i personally think you're pretty cool. :)

    Amber
    Reply February 13, 2011

    Emily,
    This coming from you, while all morning I've thought about growing my hair out so I can have dreads. There are dreads in my heart, i tell you. But then I'm not sure if they'd go with my thick liquid eyeliner.

    You live too far away for my liking.

kendal
Reply February 13, 2011

ha! i'm interested in your posts this week....mostly because this new church i've joined is 70% hoemschooling. really. and me? not only do my kids go to public school, i'm a TEACHER. gasp. but it's been cool to get to know people and begin to understand the why. and that's a good thing because until now i've felt offended. i think about your posts when your little guy headed to kindergarten and then very soon he was home with you and your reasons were perfect and of god and i thought, "of course." and even "yeah for amber." these are steps for me. i'm called to the classroom down the road. while you and other awsesome ones are called to the classroom beside the kitchen. and god equips us for what he calls. amen. well, now. i've used more words in this comment than i ususally do in an entire post!

    Amber
    Reply February 13, 2011

    Kendal, Exactly! I have felt such judgment from homeschool moms when I wasn't considering it, and it really actually pushed me away, but now surprisingly, I'm experiencing more judgment than I EVER would have expected from moms and dads whose kids are in public school.

    I'm excited to actually articulate some of it myself.

laura@life overseas
Reply February 14, 2011

ha ha ha. this is so funny! and i don't think you are dorky at all-- ah, the wonders of video-phones, right?

i have taught in both private and public school systems, and have a long homeschooling story, which i will spare here, but to say that initially my husband's "one requirement" for me homeschooling our kids was that they "not turn out as weird-homeschooled kids." funny.

the best advice i heard was from a mom who said that at the beginning of each year she prayed over each child and really tried to seek God on what was the best for that year, for that child. she wasn't sold out one way or the other for all the kids, but wanted to be open, each year, each child. i like that.

excited to read your thoughts in future days . . .

laura@life overseas
Reply February 14, 2011

um-- comment-remorse!

i didn't mean that all homeschooling kids are "weird"-- obviously. just was hitting on the assumption {and sometimes reality} that homeschooled kids don't "fit in."

{and the fact that i was worried about that comment at dinner tonight is evidence of the touchi-ness of homeschooling, isn't it?}

    Amber
    Reply February 14, 2011

    laura@life overseas, No Worries! I totally get it.

Jessica Y
Reply February 14, 2011

This gave me a good belly laugh at a ripe 7am! Thanks, honey!

Jessica Y
Reply February 14, 2011

Is "fitting in" a good thing?

    Amber
    Reply February 14, 2011

    Dear Jessica Y,

    This is such a great question. To me it's not as black and white as some may think.

    Caring more about praise from others than from God is a big deal. I do NOT want that for my children. I do NOT want my children comfortable with our culture either.

    BUT, I do want my children to be effective ministers of the gospel, comfortable enough and unafraid enough to speak truth in love, to not step back in tisking shock (that hands out guilt like a magic pill to Holiness) if they hear someone struggling with sin. I want my children to have empathy.

    I do believe that I will teach them that at home, but I also find it very valuable to expose them to different cultures, opinions, and pools of ideas as they mature. Mostly, I want to teach them to love people in the name of Jesus. Wherever they're educated, it takes intentionality.

    An aspect of fitting in is just knowing how to deal with people, treat people. I was educated in public school and still find myself having a hard time with that one. Go figure.

Jessica Y
Reply February 14, 2011

So true Amber. I love what Ann says
"If we are going to home-educate, we are going to need to be proactive in engaging the world. As homeschoolers, we can’t create our own self-protective ghettos so our safe Christian children may just meet and marry another safe and good Christian to have their own safe and good Christian family. God didn’t call us to that! He called us to love a lost and hurting world."

Carrie L
Reply February 14, 2011

You guys are such dorks! It's always the thing that Troy and I want to do when we get out by ourselves, too! I think that's why we love you guys! =)

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