When I wait for you to come home and you finally get to me, sometimes I crumble. You walk in, and even if nothing is in place, you give order. You are strong. You bear my weight better than I do.

I love it when you read and get excited and carry on about what hits your heart. When you explain, it’s easy to follow, but I love to get lost in it how you do. I want to hear your heart for days. My favorite thing is for you to bare it. 

You have not been my one and only, but I have been yours, and I accept your love now like one washed clean in a constant bath. It’s not easy to be loved sometimes, but you are the best teacher. You are my best friend. I love the baths you’ve made for me.

There is no one like you. Contrary to what I said earlier (you know how I shift) you are my one and only. You are my true one. I would choose you more passionately today than I did that day I said “yes.” I would choose you, but I don’t have to because you’ve chosen me. I feel like you choose me over and over, so all I have to do is go about accepting it.

I don’t care about roles. We don’t study them and try to fit them. I just know you love me, and I trust it. You make me want to give you something great, but I’ll never do it in accordance with what you’ve given me.

Husband, you are proof of God. You are proof of redemption. There is one who slings dirt as far as East is from the West. And you are the proof.


Please go check out PaperGlueetc and let her know what you think of her February posts (Seth and I are both guests). A month of posts are dedicated to love. It would mean a lot to me if you let her know how much you appreciate the work she’s doing there. Tomorrow, I’ll link to her again for another amazing idea she had.

Also Check out WeareThatfamily and the SWAK Carnival. There are many door prizes and links to other lovey dovey posts.

About me


Dear Seth: A Marriage Letter on Your Sobriety and What it Looks Like to Come Clean
October 27, 2015
When I Don’t Feel God
March 11, 2013
Concrete Words: An Abstraction on the Rock
January 28, 2013
Marriage Letters: I Knew You Loved Me When
February 27, 2012
Peace Is
June 06, 2011
What Gets Done in the Undone
April 20, 2011
how the dirt inspires
March 14, 2011
Joseph – Defender of the Fatherless
December 15, 2010
A Community Companion: on learning love
October 27, 2010


Reply February 11, 2009

Now comment away, girlfriends. What are you loving so much about your husband or future husband today? What is it you haven't said to him?

The Baker
Reply February 11, 2009


i am not a girlfriend. i wanted to say something about my wife, but nevermind. i do appreciate your words.

Reply February 11, 2009

SHEWT! No! Come back! Speak it, Baker.

Boyfriends, what about your ladies? You want to talk to 'em, don't you?

Reply February 11, 2009

if i had a boyfriend, i would appreciate all the times he lets me choose the movie and doesn't complain and huff and puff about it.

(actually, my wife is a sacrificial art goer for me. she just gave me my valentine's gift this morning: tickets to see FRIDAY THE 13TH in the theater this friday night. i've been stoked about this for over a year, but all my horror hound friends live out of state. so the wife is taking me. my wife could care less about these films; in fact, she avoids them like influenza. still, she's doing this as an act of love. i know we're suppose to be bragging on our husbands, but sometimes my wife is too good to hold off the praise.)


Reply February 11, 2009


Including you and Seth in my "Love Fest" was a no brainer! What a great example of true love you and your relationship are!

Thank you!

Michelle’s last blog post..Husband!

Reply February 11, 2009

"When I wait for you to come home and you finally get to me, sometimes I crumble. You walk in, and even if nothing is in place, you give order. You are strong. You bear my weight better than I do."

You put into words the way I feel, so often, about my man. We're on the third week that he's been gone most of the week, only home on the weekends. I feel like a wuss - all crumbly and weak. I miss him. He is my backbone.

BlueCastle’s last blog post..Part 2 of Recycling An Ugly Light Fixture

    Reply February 11, 2009

    Don't you feel silly for pining, but aren't you glad you do?

    It's hard without Daddy. Hang in there, sister.

Reply February 11, 2009

That's such an amazing love letter! I'm so glad I met you (briefly) at Blissdom and can now read your blog! (We met near the bar at the Friday night cocktail party - but it was dark and crowded and crazy, and our conversation only went as far as names, unfortunately!)

~ Mary

Photoqueen’s last blog post..Out of commission.

We are THAT family
Reply February 11, 2009

Isn't is amazing how God uses our mates to SHOW us Redemption, to TEACH us Unconditional Love, to CREATE a desire in us for a Pure Heart?

Our journey has been long. The days have been hard. And love has carried us. I wouldn't trade it for anything.

I understand you....could have written your same words....

We are THAT family’s last blog post..Just Send Me Your Therapy Bills

Normal to Natalie
Reply February 11, 2009

"you bear my weight better than i do"...i love it! thanks for sharing.

Normal to Natalie’s last blog post..With this ring...

Reply February 11, 2009

This is too beautiful.

Reply February 11, 2009

I've been doing the hard work of homemaking all day and am too tired for find something lovely and poetic to match this lovely and post. I do want to say that I love that my husband left a time suck of a career that he absolutely loved to find a business that allows him to be home with his girls so much more.

Reply February 11, 2009

tonight my wife came to my lame writing center lecture about paragraphs. she sat on the first row. she sure as shucks didn't have to do that. praise her.


Reply February 11, 2009

My husband and I have been through the fire together, and 10 years of marriage later, I had no idea I could love him so much. I love that he makes me laugh harder than anyone in the world, and when I see his car pull into the driveway, a wave of contentment crashes somewhere around my temples and trickles down into a smile I'm only half-aware of.

    Reply February 11, 2009

    Emily - "when I see his car pull into the driveway, a wave of contentment crashes somewhere around my temples and trickles down into a smile I’m only half-aware of."
    Yes! Well said.

    Hamster - Your wife is one of those people who is so very human and so very not all at the same time - half angel maybe.

Reply February 11, 2009

Amber, *sigh*

it kills me that you don't have more confidence in yourself. You are amazing girlfriend. Beautiful.

Reply February 12, 2009

You so eloquently wrote, what I often feel in my heart. What a beautiful post.

Jesica’s last blog post..SWAK (Part 3) - You change me.

Reply February 12, 2009

i love this part: "i don't care about roles."

perfectly said!

xo sandy

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TMI Tara
Reply February 13, 2009

What a wonderful tribute!

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Alana @ Gray Matters
Reply February 14, 2009

Hello - my friend SortaCrunchy recommended this post. I appreciate your openness and love the way to tell your heart. I'll definitely be back.

Alana @ Gray Matters’s last blog post..House Rules

Laura Ingalls Gunn
Reply February 16, 2009

I am a bit late in visiting via the SWAK carnival, but what a great story!

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